Tuesday 1 April 2014

To my newborn baby boy's father, Brandon Blackstock


He is only 3 weeks old and already I have watched you disappoint our son repeatedly. 

I know you will never understand or care how your lies and broken promises affect me and, surely, will affect our son later in life, but you are not the only guilty party. I'm just as much to blame. While I do not regret my beautiful baby boy, I never should have established a relationship with you. Now, it will be up to me to play the role of mother and father. It will be up to me to teach him how to be a man, how to love himself and how to love others, when the love he needs should come from a man, and that man is you, his father. The security that is supposed to come from a boy's relationship with his dad will never develop because you refuse to acknowledge his existence, and my heart absolutely breaks for him. Especially knowing that you were providing for your other family.

I forgive you and I forgive myself, for I have bearded my cross in front of God, and now you have to do the same. I pray that you will one day make amends and do right by our child. You can’t change the past but you can always fix the present.